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Do We Get Along? Sign-by-Sign

Cancer female and Aquarius male

Aquarius: This looks so wonderful from my vantage point, I just can’t understand why I don’t see it more often. Of course, if I look at the paper version of this, the charts themselves, I can understand why the most frequent comment is, “He’s an Aquarius—it didn’t work because he is so….” then insert your favorite comment about Aquarius males.

He is appealing. He looks wonderful. He is so refined. It seems like it should work. But Cancer women have something that’s a special quality not found in other signs, or even other females (except, of course, the girls with Cancer Moons), whatever this quality is, the Aquarius guy just doesn’t get it.

If you are willing to put up with some of his tendencies to be acerbic and intellectual while you are emotional and have your own depth of feeling, it might work. At least, it works for a little while. Sort of. Don’t count on it lasting, though. I’m not the disturbed individual saying that all relationships with an Aquarius are doomed, nor am I one to pick on the sign. It’s just that this is an unlikely pairing, and from long experience, it doesn’t work as often as it should.

There are exceptions to every rule. If there is a degree of water in his Aquarius chart, or if you are willing to forgive his “apparent” lack of emotion, then this works. And I call it apparent, but no Aquarius guy is actually devoid of emotion, he just doesn’t always demonstrate it in the same way a normal guy does.

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Scorpio woman and Pisces man

ScorpioPisces: One a scale of the best relationships I’ve ever seen, this is second only to its reverse. But you’re going to have to be pretty careful when handling your Pisces guy. He is a little more sensitive than you. No, that’s not true, he’s not more sensitive than you. No one is more sensitive than a Scorpio woman. (And I’m not pandering to you, either—it’s the truth.)

But that Pisces guy is more in touch, in an obvious way, with his feelings than you are. There are very few guarded Pisces guys. Ask him, he’ll tell you how he is feeling, at that very moment. So much for the good news.

PiscesThere was the nicest stray cat in this one apartment complex I lived. He was all black except for a little tuft of white hair on his chest. He was also a Pisces male. That should be, he was a typical Pisces male. He would cat around all night, and then show up on my doorstep in the morning. Rather than say he was hungry, he would just look at me with those forlorn cat eyes, and I would give him food.

I did, eventually, put a cute pink flea collar on him, too. That worked pretty well. The way I know he was a standard–issue Pisces cat was something that happened one night. There was typical Texas spring storm. There was high wind, rain in great sheets. Some folks reported seeing a tornado funnel cloud someplace. The cat was sitting on my door mat, soaking wet. If he had moved over a mere three feet, he would have been in a dry spot, but the lashing rain was soaking this guy. He didn’t scratch at the door, or meow. He just sat there until I let him in.

This did not go over too well with my indoor Mama cat, but she did let him know that he wasn’t allowed out from under the couch, but he could stay the night. At least as long as it was raining that hard.

You can’t help but have pity on the guy. You can’t help but believe that he needs your mercy. But he’s a foxy little critter, that Pisces. However, just like that stray, when he looks in your eyes, you have no choice but to take him in.


Leo Female and Scorpio Male

Scorpio: I was thinking about a nursery rhyme while I was looking through the files and notes for this relationship. “When she was good, she was very, very good, and when she was bad, she was even better.” This ditty came to mind. This is not an inherently good relationship. But I’ve seen it work well, about 50% of the time. Want to play the odds?

Both signs are fixed signs, and they lay at a 90–degree angle from each other in the giant wheel in the sky. This is not considered a good angle. In fact, this is usually called a bad thing. It does mean that there is an instant attraction here. That’s the good news. But instant physical attraction, and the way the two signs approach this are very different.

A fine Leo woman like yourself does very well when cuddled, coddled and cooed over. What really helps is putting you up on a pedestal. Your Scorpion might not do this—he does do it, he can’t help himself who can’t put you on a pedestal? But he doesn’t tell you that you’re on his pedestal. He doesn’t let you in his little secret about how much he likes you. This is where all the trouble starts. It’s really simple, Leo’s are the most manageable sign in the zodiac, all it takes is a little attention. And if he would just pay attention to you, everything would be okay. What you don’t see, what is really happening, is that he’s looking out of the corner of his eye, in a way you can’t see him, and he’s admiring you.

His surreptitious behavior is not what a Leo needs. She needs, you need, the best treatment possible, at the best of times, in the best of ways. Too bad he doesn’t have the heart to show you how much he cares.

In the best of these relationships, the Leo girl learns to pick up the subtle signs that the Scorpio shows. In the worst, however, the subtly is lost on that fine Leo sense. Too bad, too, because you guys are really the best that there is.

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Sagittarius girl and Sagittarius guys

SagittariusSagittarius: All I can say about this is “go for it.” Ah, c’mon folks. I’m Sagittarius and I’ve had one Sag girl break my heart. And no sooner said than done when a flurry of other Sag girls worked their way into my life. I can’t say anything bad about them. Not a one.

There’s too many Sagittarius girls in my files, too many of them are good looking, too many of them are fun, passionate, considerate, ready to go at the drop of a gym bag, for me not to be rather encouraged by this Sagittarius and Sagittarius relationship. There is a problem, and the problem has to do with a lot of extraneous factors. Which one will leave the relationship faster? Which one will get up one morning and announce, “I’m thinking of going to study in France this week,” pack up and leave?

It’s a valid question. There’s much that is good here. Perhaps it’s too much of a good thing, or perhaps it’s two people that are very much alike. Or perhaps the problem is the fact that the male Sagittarius is little more wandering than the female. Or it might be reversed—you can never tell.

The passions are certainly strong, the love is enduring, but the day in and day out sort of mundane tasks are the sort of thing that wears these two out. This is a relationship built on mutual admiration and strong passion. Alas, the problem with passion is that it can burn out. It really does depend on who has the most fire in his or her chart, but the one with the most fire stands a chance of burning quickest, perchance too quickly, and wearing out the relationship.

In the best of times, this is one of the best of relationships. In the worst of times, however, due to the similar responses from both parties, the worst characteristics of the Sagittarius creatures are exacerbated. Means when it gets tough, the scene gets really ugly in a hurry. The good news is that there is always hope for reconciliation within this grouping.

Timely note: Pluto is currently in Sagittarius and he’s made aspect to maybe half of us so far. He will realign your thinking about a relationship. Consider it a focus point kind of astrological influence. If it’s already hit, ya’ll are cool. If he ain’t visited yet, just be prepared.

The inherent problems with a same–sign relationship are multiplied when both the signs are the Mighty Archer. Given the Sagittarius penchant for grandiosity, as long as it’s good, it’s great. Keep that thought, and keep it upbeat.

Who loves you, baby?


Virgo Female and Cancer man

Cancer: Okay, let’s try this one: Virgo girls are great. Cancer men can be wonderful. It’s not a pairing up without a degree of good stuff going for it. There is a problem, though. You want to fix the fence in the backyard. He wants to “play house,” which looks a lot more like something else, if you know what I mean. He might get around to that fence, but in typical Cancer fashion, there’s going to be a degree fumbling along. First, he’s got to go to the hardware store. Then it’s the building supply place. Then, after he’s looked at that fence for a minute or two, he mutters something, and he’s got to go to the lumberyard. So far, your fence still needs to be repaired, there is a pile of supplies in the backyard, and yet, nothing has happened.

See what I mean? He’s got the idea, but he lacks a little follow through. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just the way this guy works, your Cancer guy. At the risk of sounding condescending, “Hey, some of my best friends are Cancer dudes….” Or is that tone patronizing? Something like that…

Getting Mr. Cancer Guy into action can sometimes take a little work. It can be done. Use your wily feminine charms on him. Ply him with sweet foodstuffs, okay, maybe just pretzels and beer, but try something on him. Be as nice as sweet potato pie. Better yet, Pecan Pie. You get the idea. Try just about anything nice. And learn to approach him indirectly. Don’t run all over his sensitive self because he is sensitive, even if he hides it under a macho bluster.

Back to the fence, remember it? You wanted it fixed, and he spent the entire morning running around, gathering supplies, making a little pass at you, and then plopping down in front of the tube for a game. Bring him a beer, and quietly remind him that you were hoping to get that fence done today. As soon as the game is over, remind him again, but try rubbing against him and purring. That seems to work.

Romance is a tough topic for this guy to talk about. Don’t push him too hard or too far, on any one occasion. Let him unfold, a little at a time, and I think you’ll be amazed at what can grow out of this.


Pisces girl and Pisces guy

PiscesPisces: It wasn’t supposed to work. It wasn’t a good idea. But that’s never stopped a Pisces because, let’s face it, a Pisces can make anything work if they want to.

I’ve seen this unlikely relationship actually work better than most because of the similarity between the basic compassionate nature of both parties. Not long ago, I ran into a Pisces pair, and it was wonderful. Happy, blissful, and probably not very well grounded, but then, like I’ve suggested before, reality might be a little overrated. It’s not like this relationship between two Pisces is not based in the real world, it’s just that the average Pisces can usually detect a minimum of four dimensions, as compared to the three that most of us work with. Maybe four, maybe five, maybe, hey, who’s bothering to count, and isn’t that numbering system just an artificial way of trying to impose one kind of order on their version of reality, anyway? See? It just doesn’t matter to a Pisces.

There’s one problem with this idyllic scenario. Occasionally, a Pisces guy will try to interrupt this dreamlike state by injecting some of the normal, day–to–day reality stuff. Don’t let him do it. Doesn’t work, and those concerns will gradually lift, given enough time.

If it is a Pisces and Pisces relationship, though, consult an astrologer, I can think of one I would recommend, and see what he has to say about moon signs for you two. That’s going to be an important issue in this relationship because dear sweet Pisces can be so sensitive.


Pisces girl and Aquarius guy

PiscesAquarius: Oh no. Oh yes. Maybe. It’s not a relationship without some merit, and to be truthful, I’ve seen it successful more often than not. But there is a small problem with an Aquarius male, and that goes back to the basic difficulty with the Aquarius sign itself: aloof, apart, different, diffident. But no sooner is that said, than the Aquarius, rising to the bait of the situation, sets out to prove us all wrong. And that’s where this relationship can work.

AquariusIt depends on a few elements in a chart, not just the sun sign alone, but with an Aquarian male, you’ve got a chance. The chance depends on his ability to transcend the innate difficulties associated with this sign. And, to a large part, this is also dependent on the compassion and understanding of the Pisces. Equivocate your needs. Explain what you want. Ask for what you want. Ask for a little more than you need, too. This insures that you get some of what you want. Remember that the Aquarius male loves his brain, and brain games are the best way to hook them up.

There’s a refreshing and unusual quality found in this sign’s basic make up. Don’t be afraid to reverse roles, either. It’s also a sign that depends on certain immutable desires. Be very careful before putting big changes into action. Tread carefully, but don’t be afraid to walk.

Get used to the fact that he’s “thinking about it” at the moment. He will demonstrate his care and concern eventually. Maybe not fast enough, but with good communication, this is workable.


Pisces girl and Capricorn guy

Capricorn: To be honest, I have to love both these signs. There is a quality, though, in this relationship that might cause some problems on that long and lonely highway of life. In fact, as long as you are dating a Capricorn guy, you’re going to feel like the Highway Department has abandoned maintenance on this section of the road. The road with a Capricorn is long, it winds around a bit, and there are some pretty big potholes. In fact, on more than one occasion, you’re going to find your sweet Pisces self wondering just when you turned off the Freeway of Love and headed down this rock strewn, obstacle laden dirt road of Capricorn land.

It’s not always that bad. If you were a car, though, I would see a Pisces as a Cadillac, not Jeep or similar all–terrain vehicle. Ever notice that a disproportionate number of Texas Ranchers prefer the Cadillac brand over any other vehicle? Know why? It’s a tough car. It can take the abuse that even an old truck sometimes can’t take. That’s one tough car. And because you’re a Pisces, not only are you tough, but you’re pretty, too. Just like that fancy sedan.

The problem with this relationship is that question, are you actually up to the task of taming a Capricorn guy? That’s the positive spin. The bad news is that you’re not sure you want to be up for the taming of this guy. That’s the negative spin. It’s like that dirt road of love, it’s not all smooth–sailing. The ride can be rough at times. In fact, there are times when you might get despondent and just want to turn back. The problem with a Capricorn guy is that this is a narrow road, and when it gets to be the worst possible conditions, you’re going to find that there is no place to turn around. No way out. And backing down that road is even worse than trying to push on.

If you are involved with a Cap guy, make sure that you have a tow–rope. Make sure you carry a shovel, maybe some extra supplies. It can be very good. There will be days, maybe even long stretches like that bit of road in West Texas that doesn’t have a curve for over hundred miles. Then there will be the detours. The potholes, the washboard surfaces, those sorts of things. It’s both good and bad, and it depends on what kind of luxury you demand in your relationship that determines the quality of this ride.