See what I mean? He’s got the idea, but he lacks a little follow through. It’s not a bad thing, it’s just the way this guy works, your Cancer guy. At the risk of sounding condescending, “Hey, some of my best friends are Cancer dudes….” Or is that tone patronizing? Something like that…Getting Mr. Cancer Guy into action can sometimes take a little work. It can be done. Use your wily feminine charms on him. Ply him with sweet foodstuffs, okay, maybe just pretzels and beer, but try something on him. Be as nice as sweet potato pie. Better yet, Pecan Pie. You get the idea. Try just about anything nice. And learn to approach him indirectly. Don’t run all over his sensitive self because he is sensitive, even if he hides it under a macho bluster.
Back to the fence, remember it? You wanted it fixed, and he spent the entire morning running around, gathering supplies, making a little pass at you, and then plopping down in front of the tube for a game. Bring him a beer, and quietly remind him that you were hoping to get that fence done today. As soon as the game is over, remind him again, but try rubbing against him and purring. That seems to work.
Romance is a tough topic for this guy to talk about. Don’t push him too hard or too far, on any one occasion. Let him unfold, a little at a time, and I think you’ll be amazed at what can grow out of this.